would you do if your ex told you that he never stopped loving you and he's
really serious and all those months he missed you?
A. Ah, the old “He-had-you-he-lost-you-and-now-he-wants-you-back”
syndrome. This is such predictable behaviour.
I’m operating under the assumption that it was
he who left you.
Some love makes you helpless, and some love
makes you strong. Sounds like maybe the love you have for this man has you in a
weak place. Maybe you want permission to give him a second chance.
Well, I’m not a big proponent of second chances
when it comes to love. Everyone makes mistakes and deserves forgiveness, but
that doesn’t mean you should let them back in your bed. If the person in
question didn’t see what they had when it was standing in front of them, then
they really don’t know diamonds from dirt. Which makes them not very bright.
One of the most valuable skills to develop in life is the ability to move on
and not look back. Once you learn how to do this, life’s limits disappear.
You know, in my thirty-six years on the planet
I think I know of only one couple that have gotten back together after a break
up are happy. The other 99% ended up breaking up again, but more bitterly than
the first time around. When one person needs to go window shopping to decide if
what he has at home is good enough, that creates a void in the relationship
that takes a lot to forgive and move on from.
Is it worth it? When the world is full of fresh
new possibilities? When right around the corner may be someone who sees you for
all that you are and doesn’t need a few months break to work it out? Why bother
with someone you can’t rely upon, someone who left you and didn’t care whether
or not you met someone new?
I think you can do a whole lot better. Unless
you have children together, I would let him go. The question is, do you love yourself enough
to move on?